EMBODIED WISDOM & GRIEF MOVEMENT

Grief is a container for other emotions, such as sorrow, sadness, fear, emptiness and longing. Experiencing these deep intense emotions can feel like you’ve been taken over by something you cannot control. Grief colours our experience of life. We often become rooted in the past unable to fully enjoy present life. We seek out ways to distract, numb or deny our pain. By refusing to lean into our pain we prolong the experience of it, thereby limiting the healing and growth available.

I know the energy it takes to hold intense overwhelming emotions at bay, and the fear of opening the floodgates lest I be swallowed up entirely.  But what I’ve learnt is that pain and suffering offer an entry point to love, liberation and peace.

With self-awareness practices we become interoceptive – more attuned to our body/mind/energy system and the emotions within our system. Research shows that interoceptive awareness supports our ability to engage in life’s challenges with flexibility, adaptability and resilience. It also increases natural pain control, empathy, intuition and the desire to self-care.

When we create distance from our emotions and feelings, through distraction, denial, addiction and the endless act of being busy, we become lost in our head and disconnected from our essential self.  Opening the door to our feelings offers a deep connection with self and with presence, and only through moving back into our body can we occupy the fullness of our being.

Healing

We each have within us a conscious awareness, a wisdom and intelligence, that knows just what is needed and how to be in relation to our grief. I want to share with you how to access this wisdom. But first, let’s look at emotions. In Latin the word emotion is ‘emotere’, which literally means energy in motion. Emotions are waves of energy which carry feelings such as joy, sorrow, sadness, anger, frustration. These waves are invisible to the naked eye and travel faster than thought. Emotions are themselves, physical states arising from the body in response to external stimuli. In other words, emotions are ever changing, moveable, not fixed. We tend to clamp down tight around emotions, identifying and defining ourselves by them.

Emotions and feelings, what’s the difference?  “Feelings are mental experiences of body states, which arise as the brain interprets emotions, themselves physical states arising from the body’s responses to external stimuli.” Professor Antonio Damasio

Emotions as communications help us to make life meaningful, transforming our world from a sequence of events, data and facts to a living and breathing experience. When we look at emotional and physical pain as messages from the unconscious – PAIN is Please Acknowledge, Information, Now!

From an energy perspective, pain as a consequence of trapped emotions, beliefs and unconscious programs, appear to me as clusters of energy attached to the body system, and sometimes the organs that generated them. Our perceptions of self and life become informed and influenced by the information and beliefs stored in these clusters. They are not the truth of who you are, but they do veil your true self.

In my work with people experiencing grief through loss of a loved one or a child, their health, identity or way of life, I have seen how embracing a mind/body/spirit approach allows compassionate, deep and powerful healing, and for love to take over.  Mary O’Malley writes, ‘what is in the way, is the way.’ I believe this too and I believe Embodied Wisdoming & Grief Movement helps open the door so you can meet your pain and begin to cultivate a deep connection with yourself while unlocking your natural healing ability.  Those who have attended have said this program allowed them to find a way to sit with their grief, experience more connection to self and awareness of how to feel okay with not being okay. Others shared how by embracing their pain and moving with it they were able to release it making space for pure love.

Cultivate a practice of conscious presencing
Quite simply, conscious presencing is the action of being here now and is key to healing. Our body loves to sigh. Breath is our very own magic provides a kind of sanctuary which we can access and use anywhere, anytime. Conscious breathing ignites praan – the pure essence of life and vitality – in every cell in our body.

Our body loves deep wide breaths yet most of us live the day shallow breathing. When we breathe consciously, we experience our own inner sanctuary of deep, open peace. We drop into our body, create balance within our ANS, autonomic nervous system, and heart coherence. This is where we come home to our essential self and access the deep wellspring of embodied wisdom. Here compassion flows easily and as we unfold all that we’ve held tightly onto, the deepest human pain minimises and the space for reconnection and healing occurs.

As a moment-to-moment practice, when thoughts become intrusive, and the mind restless, when we’re looking outside of ourselves for a remedy of peace, bring your attention to your breath. Here in the present moment. Watch the breath ebb and flow, rise and fall. Feel the sensation of the breath in your body. Watch. Feel. Sense. Allow deep slow breaths. Silently affirming to yourself, I Am Here.

Mandi Cloete – Living Presence, is a Transformational Coach, Intuitive, Meditation Teacher and Mother. She facilitates the Embodied Wisdom & Grief Movement program which begins 16th October at the Heart Place, Fremantle.

A thank you letter

I came to see Mandi because, although I was very happy in my life, there was a shadow cast from a string of failed relationships. One relationship had ended over two years ago but I was still struggling to let go of it in my head. I felt that I wanted peace and to be able to fully move on from the past and into my future in a way that was clear and uncluttered. Most of all I wanted to be free from the thoughts of my ex-lover that would enter my head unwelcomed. Usually during the precious time when I wasn’t preoccupied with work or caring for my children. These times I felt should have been for me, not spent raking over the past.

Right from the start my session with Mandi was different to anything I have experienced in the past. I have had counselling where I have felt pushed to find answers, put feelings into words and think up solutions. This was not the case during my session with Mandi. From the moment I sat down and made myself comfortable, I was aware that I didn’t have to do anything other than to be receptive. Nothing felt forced and I make connections between childhood events and the present without effort. Tuning in to how I was feeling came easily and many emotions that I had been unaware of were brought to light.

There was a feeling of flow and trust, not only in Mandi but in the entire universe. I felt undeniable relaxation and love for all, even those who had hurt me.



At the end of the session I chose a card from a pack and it was ‘Deep Cleansing’, perfectly mirroring my feelings about what had taken place that hour.

I was refreshed and ready for the next chapter in my life.

After my healing session with Mandi, I felt at peace, calm, relaxed and reassured that my life was unfolding in way that would best serve me and my loved ones.

That night I slept soundly. I had a dream where I was pursuing my ex-lover to win him back. I felt certain that we were meant to be together. In my dream, I successfully seduced him and we were back together. At which point I felt disappointed and I realised that being with this man was not what my soul wanted. All the reasons I had for ending the relationship where still there. All I felt was disappointment and an overwhelming feeling that this connection was not enough for me, that I deserved better. I felt some closure on the relationship and was able to let go of the idea that we were meant to be together. I had experienced this in my dream and it did not bring happiness, only disappointment.

I would recommend seeking Mandi’s guidance to anyone who is feeling they are stuck or in emotion pain.

This woman has gifts to heal and bring peace and comfort.

Love Renae x

 

 

Keeping your spirit alive in a chaotic world

Dear friend,

I just wanted to write to you and let you know I'm thinking of you.

We are living in interesting times. Turn on the news or read the paper and we are hit with all the FUDGE in the world.  FUDGE = Fear, Uncertainty, Disaster, Greed and Envy.

Made all the more challenging by our natural propensity as humans toward sadness and grief, it's hard to not get pulled into the millions of stories going on around us and within us, and end up feeling utterly depressed and overwhelmed. 

Leunig captures this rather well.



I wanted to connect with you to let you know in this seemingly chaotic time, it is possible to transcend this perceived pain and connect to the beauty that exists within you and all around you.

When you are in pain, it is your thoughts that suffer, not you. It is your attachment to fearful thoughts, broken dreams, dashed hoped, crushed expectations, failed plans and transgressions.

As Within, So Without - here, Socrates invites us to the awareness of how our outer world reflects our inner world, and our inner world reflects our outer world. By changing our internal state - which is really the only part of anything we have control over - we can immediately shift our experience internally and this then shifts our experience externally.

Here are five things you can do immediately to create a transformational shift:

    • Breathe Deeply - and evenly for a minimum of two minutes, this creates balance in your autonomic nervous system with immediate feelings of calm and peace
    • Be Here Now - bring your awareness into the present moment, neither in the past, nor the future but here in this moment where there is freedom
    • Let go - let go of attachments to outcomes and expectations, which goes hand in hand with...
    • Acceptance - what you resist persists, so dissolve the resistance through acceptance
    • Relax - we are conditioned to think all change requires effort when in fact relaxing into change is a much more pleasant (and effective) way of transforming you and your world

Check out this awesome article from Martha Beck called Give it a Rest - And See What Happens

I recorded this meditation 'Resting in Presence' as a gift for you. The more we relax and dissolve all tension in the body, the more we are able to be present. When we are present we experience self beyond thought and conditions. In this state we experience deep resolution, healing, peace and harmony.

Love yourself into alignment with this powerful meditation.

Life’s Work…

So many of my clients first come to me feeling stuck. They know there is more to be had in life, feel they are destined for more, are really unhappy settling and yet don’t know how to move forward.

Over the years, what I’ve noticed is this…when clients present with the above conditions there is a distinct absence of connection to self-wisdom.

When we have a direct line to our innate wisdom a few things happen:

  • - we experience deep connection to self
  • - we slough off the static and ‘energetic noise’ that keeps us stuck
  • - we experience diamond clarity
  • - we experience profound alignment to our Soul purpose
  • - we experience powerful motivation to take courageous action

I combine soul coaching and energy healing with ancient practices sprinkled with some modern neuroscience based methodologies to help clients break through confusion and get diamond clarity on what they truly want. In addition to the above, they learn to live life from inside out, and not reactively which brings immense joy, peace and fulfillment. They walk away with powerful tools that can be used over and over again to get the same incredible results.

I truly believe every single person is wired for magnificence, and the very thing they seek is within themselves.

“When something is missing from your life, there most probably is, and it’s most probably you’

Click on the image below to read my blog on 'awakening to self'...



I am so passionate about this work – I’ve been studying so many methodologies for more than 25 years. Mainly because of my insatiable love of learning. My first real gig was as a Healer in the UK working alongside the British Medical Association taking Spiritual Healing into hospices, hospitals and nursing homes. Fast forward; for the last ten years I’ve been building my coaching practice here in Perth. This is my life’s work. My Soul purpose. 

Love Heals

Life for me has been a journey of recovery and healing. In the depth of my own despair and suffering I secretly held out hope that one day someone would appear in my life and rescue me. That I would be saved and healed by someone magically appearing in my life and reaching for me. My experience has been quite the opposite.

In my late teens up to my mid-thirties I spent many years travelling the globe seeking not only a place to belong outside of myself but also the secret to life, my life. I’ve had many teachers and taken hundreds of courses in all weird and wonderful things. But the most profound teaching that was really the turning point in my journey of recovery and healing was this simple truth...

I am the Love I seek

Love, in the fullest sense is not an idealistic love, it’s not commerce-identified nor is it romantic in its experience. Love exists both before and beyond conditions. It is dynamic. It is always present, it is the very essence of our being.

Love is the voice under all silences; the hope which has no opposite in fear; the strength so strong mere force is feebleness; the truth more first than sun, more last than star... —E.E. Cummings

Because we are love, at our very core, it is always available. Always available to help us face the wounded, rejected aspects of ourselves, enabling us to deal with our inner demons of shame, negative self-talk, negative self-image and unresolved issues that shape the fabric of our identity.

I have learned that when we place armour around our heart thinking it is protecting us from harm, it dulls our sensitivity and cuts us off from Love. We remain wounded behind this armouring and keep ourselves separate from the very essence that can heal us. What’s astounding is that when a person is armoured, they do not feel their own armour as such.

In his book Character Analysis, Psychologist Wilhelm Reich found the functions of armouring to be that it keeps potentially explosive emotions in and wards off the emotions of others. There are different types of armouring such as body-armouring, sexual body-armouring etc. all of which affect our ability to connect – with Self, with source and with others.

Richard Moss MD also speaks perfectly of this:

"The ultimate form of cocreation is how the Self holds the self - the personal experience of being. This is what determines what we experience and who and how we are as we live, breath by breath. The Self-me relationship is the fundamental relationship because moment by moment it is the gaze we turn upon ourselves that creates our sense of self. This relationship is mediated not by thinking but by the quality of attention we bring to the Now in our me-ness; how we are present with our sensations, emotions and thoughts."

When our attention originates within the Love that is innate to us, and we reside at the beginning of ourselves, then the world is Love. When we hold the even the most painful places in ourselves with loving, open attention, we experience compassion. And with compassion our whole world transforms.

In a client session recently, spirit spoke to my client of the experience of vulnerability that comes when we live with an open heart. They pretty much reframed for us both (me and the client) what vulnerability is and what it isn't, That being vulnerable is to be bold and brave and being vulnerable isn't a weakness but it allows deeper connecting.  They also spoke of the allowingness of vulnerability. When we show up to life allowing, vulnerable, open trusting - all of which occurs when we cultivate an open heart and centredness in self which acts like a ballast in a chaotic world - this is where the magic is to be found. True Joy, Peace and Love.  

In reality, when we experience the truth of who we are how can we not be more open hearted? We know that a power more infinite than our conditioned self is with us, is us...what's to be afraid of? 

At a retreat with my teacher Isira Sananda she spoke often of Love… 

 “When we realise we are Love, we realise we are at one with all things, with all resources, with all intelligence. We awaken to our infinite Self and discover that life can be dramatically different just by the realisation “I am Love”.

Discovering this Love isn’t through theorising or conceptualising. It’s in the being.

How then?

The where is HERE

The HOW is always in the NOW

The NOW is beyond time, beyond the mind

The NOW is the source and presence of all that is True.

It is when we meet this, consciously, that everything we have tried to understand, the peace and love we have been seeking, is discovered and embodied in the midst of every living moment. 

—Isira Sananda

with love Mandi 



An Open Letter…

Dear Mandi,

I am just writing to say thank you for your support in the recent passing of my brother-in-law, speaking for myself and my sister. Because the whole family has agreed that we would like other people to know about the difference you can make at a time like this, this is an open letter that you are welcome to share.

To be honest, I cannot imagine losing a family member and not having your help in understanding and making it easier. I have often described your role in our mother’s passing as being ‘like having a village shaman’. So, I would like to also talk here about what you have done for us both in the last few weeks following this sudden and shocking death, and also a few years ago when our mother died.

Healing with Our Mum in Palliative Care

Mandi performed a healing with our Mum in the nursing home, while our Mum was in palliative care, and in a state of near unconsciousness, moaning in pain. Mandi spent about an hour with myself and Mum and ‘cleared the base chakra’ of ‘stale old energy’. Because my Mum believed strongly in chakra’s, I was so relieved to bring her someone who could work with her on a different level at such a scary time for her. While Mandi was there, she explained that the energy that she was clearing could often make it harder for the spirit to leave the body, and that the passing could be more painful physically than it would otherwise be. She also described some of the spirits that were with mum in the room, waiting for her transition into afterlife. This was particularly beautiful.

A few days later, one of the nurses that I had to turn away at the door because we were doing some ‘alternative healing’ came up to me and told me that my mum had been in a lot less pain ‘mysteriously’ ever since our session. She and I exchanged self-satisfied smiles.

The next day Mandi called me on the phone and explained that my Mum’s spirit had been to visit her the night before and asked her to complete the ‘clearing’ (I thought she meant in a dream, but Mandi explained Mum’s spirit had woken her up to communicate). Anyway, Mandi asked me to get the family’s permission to perform a clearing of the heart chakra, because ‘One relationship was holding the spirit to this plane’. Mandi explained that once the connection was cleared, the passing would be swift. I rang my sister and my Dad (luckily we all share the same beliefs) and we gave Mandi permission. She didn’t even need to come into the nursing home, she worked remotely.

A few weeks later, our Mum passed away, holding hands with our Dad. We were all massively relieved to know that she passed onto a better place, and was free of the pain and suffering that she had had physically. And of course, we still grieved losing her.

Our Mum’s health had deterioriated suddenly while she was already in a nursing home. We assumed she was about to die (and we were told she was being put into palliative care). During that time the three people that cared for her most did ‘shifts’ to be with her. After a few weeks, my sister and I got to speak to her Dr and he warned us that we may want to rethink this commitment, because she ‘could be in this state for years’. I still believe that the work Mandi did with our Mum helped to speed up the process of her passing and make it possible for us to be with her every day for the last weeks, and for her to be with someone who loved her in her last moments. I will always be grateful for that.

Channeling after the Sudden Death of My Brother In Law
Two weeks ago, my beautiful brother-in-law died suddenly, we think from a massive heart attack. It was his first and he had had no diagnosis of heart condition, so we have all experienced this as a massive shock.

Because Mandi is a personal friend, I phoned her that night as my own shoulder to cry on. In between the normal grief conversation I asked her if she was ‘picking up anything’ about him and she said only massive shock. In the days that followed she smsed with my sister more information, that she was now able to connect with him and that he was surrounded by support and connected to love beyond human emotions.

Five days after the event, Mandi came to the family home and performed a channeling at our request, with my sister, their two adult daughters, and myself. It lasted for 1.5 hours and was absolutely amazing. It allowed everyone the chance to say goodbye that they had not had. There were many tears, and a LOT of reassurance. Many of our greatest fears and regrets were put to rest. There were many, many moments when Mandi described images that ‘he is showing me’ and just repeated words that ‘he is saying’ that were unmistakably in the phrases and personality of this unique man.

As well as beautiful, personal words of love and thanks to his family, he spoke of ‘what he can see from where he is now’ and that his passing was absolutely destined and on purpose.

In the two nights before this event, the family had been able to talk about memories and able to laugh for the first time, it was as if we were over the worst of the shock and loss.

After this event, a weight lifted off my shoulders, and I felt a connection to something bigger. My need for ‘some meaning’ was more than met and some part of me moved into acceptance. I felt a calmness that was profound and difficult to explain. My sister said she felt the same thing. This change has not gone anywhere, even as we continue to grieve, through the funeral and the wake, the nature of the loss has shifted.

Since then, his Mother, Sister and her daughters have also visited Mandi for a 1 hour channeling and shared the recording with us. Again, a profound and beautiful experience.

There have continued to be tears, but together we are all in ‘better shape’.

We are just so grateful for the support that Mandi provided in both these times of need. We hope that by our sharing, more people may benefit from her incredible gift at times of death and dying. This woman has a gift to connect you with ‘the Mystery’ and she delivers it with compassion and humility – an experience that takes you beyond everyday life.

Grace

Michael

Michael lived in Bondi Junction. I’m not sure how he spent his days when I wasn’t with him, but whenever I visited with him at his home he always had visitors.  I’d usually find him in his garden, surrounded by friends, in discourse or playing musical instruments and always drinking mint tea.

In his previous incarnations, he had been a Greek Orthodox Priest in London. Now, as I knew him, he was a spiritual teacher of a different kind.

I can’t remember the exact details of our first meeting. I do remember we were introduced by mutual friends. I was immediately struck by his gentle yet strong presence which was much larger than his 5.5ft frame and his round soft belly.  Aged in his early 60’s his hair, mainly grey still had elements of black to match his eyebrows, and the deep brown of his eyes.

I was 24 when I met Michael. He became such a profound influence in my life I named my beloved cat after him.

“anyone can find peace on the top of a mountain, your purpose is to attain peace in the chaos and extremes of a busy life” Michael

As a Mystic, Michael taught me what was to become the foundations for my own journey of transformation. He taught me about energy and spirit communication. He taught me about meditation. I remember he would say “anyone can find peace on the top of a mountain, your purpose is to attain peace in the chaos and extremes of a busy life.”  He would take me to Darling Harbour, a large pedestrian precinct and major tourist attraction in Sydney, and he would have me sit on a bench, legs folded, hands in mudra position and drop into deep meditative state, while taking in the sounds, smells and noises of one of Sydney’s busiest spots.  At first it felt ridiculous, but over time and with practice I began to reap the benefits. And soon, I was teaching others – although we did start much more gently, sitting under the giant oak trees in Sydney’s Hyde Park. I remember the very first group of novice meditation students – sitting with backs resting on the barks of the trees, eyes closed, breathing even and soft, emanating a deep peace and connection with all that there is. ‘You did this’ Michael whispered. ‘You created this’.  I knew then that this was my path. To share with others the knowledge of my own teachers as well as drawing from my own experience.

Michael also introduced me to the truth of who I am, who we all are. Spiritual beings embodied for the human experience, and that to experience true healing and liberation we must first let go of living in accordance to our past or the future. True freedom is experienced in the NOW.

One place he used to take me to, which as a sensitive I wasn’t over thrilled about, was Waverly Cemetery.  Located on the top of the cliffs at Bronte in the eastern suburbs of Sydney, and considered one of the most beautiful cemeteries in the world. We used to take morning or afternoon tea there, depending on the weather. As a child, I was aware of spirit and had developed a fear of opening myself up, mainly because of the lack of support and teaching around me at that time. I was made to believe that what was a natural occurrence for me, was bad and wrong. That there was something wrong with me. Michael mentored me in spirit communication and taught me to trust in my abilities.

We spent the whole of spring and summer together. At weekends and after work I would take the train to his place where I would share in the discourse and music with friends, and drink mint tea, before we would begin theoretical study followed by practical application – my favourite part.

Because of visa restrictions I had to leave the country.  I sent postcards sharing my then trip to NZ. Waiting until I could enter back into Australia.  I was gone for about six months. When I did return, I took the train to Bondi, walked to his home, knocked on the door and no-one answered.

I never saw Michael again, in the physical. Now he is with me in spirit. Still teaching me and I love him dearly.  He’s reminding me of whenever I entered a room or walked by him, he would catch the scent of roses. <3

Awaken to your Spiritual Heart <3

There is a candle in your heart,

ready to be kindled.

There is a void in your soul,

ready to be filled.

You feel it, don’t you?

You feel the separation

from the Beloved.

Invite Him to fill you up,

embrace the fire.

Remind those who tell you otherwise that

LOVE comes to you of its own accord,

and the yearning for it

cannot be learned in any school.

—Rumi

sacred-heartSince being a child this image ‘Most Sacred Heart of Jesus’ has always resonated with me. I find the image itself quite kitsch, probably due to the fact that I only ever saw it hanging in the homes of aging devout Catholics.  In Roman Catholic terms this image represents taking Jesus Christs physical heart as the representation of His divine love for humanity.  But for me it means something quite different.  For me this image depicts the Spiritual Heart which is the essence of our true nature, oneness, Supreme Consciousness. A point of contact with God.

Our heart is something quite extraordinary. Beyond the physical organ what we all have is something magical.  What if I told you that within each and every one of us lies the passage to our own healing and awakening, and that of the planet, and that this passage has a doorway, a portal – the Heart.

It’s my understanding that we have three hearts – the physical heart, the energetic heart (Chakra) and the Spiritual Heart (Sacred Heart).  It is through communing with our Spiritual Heart that we experience divine Love, our true nature and return home. What’s not to love!

Scientists at the HeartMath Institute have been researching heart science with amazing results. Predominately focused on heart and brain communication and how this influences our consciousness and perceptions of our world, this group of scientists have been able to gather data and measure the large electromagnetic field generated from the heart. When we feel positive emotions like gratitude, love and appreciation, the heart beats out a certain message aligned with the frequencies of these emotings.  Knowing this, you can understand more deeply the power of the words we use and why affirmations can be so effective.

heartmath

 

According to Rolin McCratey, Ph.D, and Director of Research at the Institute and author of the paper ‘The Energetic Heart: Bioelectromagnetic Communication Within and Between People’:  View Paper here

The electrical field of the heart as measured in an ECD is about 60 times greater in amplitude than the brain waves recorded in an ECG. The magnetic component of the heart’s field is around 100 times stronger than that produced by the brain, and is not impeded by tissues and can be measured several feet away from the body. Emotional information is actually coded and modulated into these fields. By learning to shift our emotions, we are changing the information coded into the magnetic fields that are radiated by the heart, which is ‘felt’ in every cell in the body, and can impact those around us. We are fundamentally and deeply connected with each other and the planet itself.

When science validates what ancient wisdom and mystics have been teaching for thousands of years it’s incredibly exciting, because this valuable information is being made mainstream and palatable for many who are turned off by anything remotely spiritual.

Coming back to the beautiful image of the ‘Most Sacred Heart of Jesus’, I like to imagine that Jesus Christ is revealing his Spiritual Heart as an invitation for each of us to become aware of its existence and to enter, deeply, devoutly and passionately into our own Spiritual Heart.

Isira Sananda taught me to surrender into the Spiritual Heart through meditation, which after many years of truth seeking has been the most profound gift, and changed my life. Through this practice, which I’ll be honest is something I’ve done with sporadic renewals of enthusiasm – because I’m human, and life gets in the way, yet it is something I always ALWAYS return to, I’ve experienced depths of presence that once felt, changes you. <3

“It is the light in your Heart that will show you the way of Peace”

– Isira

According to Ramana Maharshi the great Indian sage and jivanmukta “the godly atom of the Self is to be found in the right chamber of the heart, about one-finger-width’s distance from the body’s midline. Here lies the Heart, the dynamic Spiritual Heart. It is called the hridaya, is located on the right side of the chest, and is clearly visible to the inner eye of an adept on the Spiritual Path. Through meditation you can learn to find the Self in the cave of this Heart”.

“What is essential in any spiritual practice is to try to bring back the running mind and fix it on one thing only. Why then should it not be brought back and fixed in Self-attention (to this feeling of ‘I’)? That alone is Self-enquiry. That is all that is to be done!” 

Ramana Maharshi

 

Knowing this, the wonderfully creative head brain seems rather limited in its practice. If we practice meditation purely from the aspect of witnessing our thoughts this can be a game with no end. Yet when we witness conscious awareness in the Spiritual Heart we then experience our true nature, our One Self, the Supreme Infinite.  And in turn, through continued devotional practice, we experience the presence of the Ultimate Witness.

 

“The ignorant one thinks that the Self can be known by the intellect, but the enlightened one knows that he is beyond the duality of the knower and the known.”  

– Kena Upanishad

 

As a Human Becomings, when we engage the wisdom of the heart with the creativity of the head brain we begin to experience a level of Self’ing not previously experienced.  By this I mean we affect the way we show up in the world, how we do ourselves (Self) in the world. Our perception of life shifts to one of beauty, joy and love and through practice this becomes a more frequent experience. Through experiencing, perceiving and evidencing this beauty, joy and love we in turn emanate the vibration of this emoting through our hearts electromagnetic field and this is the ultimate change we want to be if we want to see, hear, feel change in our world.

With Love

tosha-silver-heart

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Peace in Chaos

What a wonderful time to be a human! The veils are thinning as we are becoming multi-dimensional beings. How I am seeing this evidenced in my own life as an energy intuitive is through an increased ease when resting into presence, being able to hold vibrations of a higher quality for longer periods of time and an acute awareness of when I am out of balance – left of center, out of my right mind. Emotions are strong. Flowing. Reminding me of the importance of allowing them to flow through me rather than become attached, or get caught up on the meanings of the emotions.

There is a chaotic energy all around us as we transition into becoming a Divine Human. It has never been more critical that we anchor ourselves to a deep spiritual practice in order to weather the destructive energetic waves that are rising through mass awakening. As with all things there are polarities…yin and yang, light and dark, love and fear. Spiritual practice is to move beyond thought – which is where ideas of good and bad, negative and positive lay. When we move beyond thought we rest into being’ness. Here we can witness the coming and going of thoughts, the absolute impermanence and flux of life. This struggle of the average human, the inclination to want to attach to what is perceived as good or right, this whole effort is at the root of conflict, disappointment, and suffering; and this only serves to keep one entangled in the superficial level of what is perceived to be occurring in the physical.

Isira says “When you let go that which is impermanent, you come into center with it. That is the gateway to your ever constant self. You come into center with what is and you let be what is. In this space you realise that within all that appears impermanent is the constant unchanged essence, the deepest essence of yourself, the indestructible essence of yourself. Life remains. Life is here, unperturbed, unchanged.”

The path to liberation is messy. It’s snotty, sweaty, active, energetic and trying. At times we may feel as if we are going mad, we may want to depart this life because it’s just too hard. The path to liberation can seem like it demands we walk through the fire of transformation, and that fire burns hotter than anything you can imagine. But the pain of shedding and letting go is worth it. Only the ego/personality struggles with this concept. The heart knows. Our soul knows.

Isira also says “if it feels good in every moment then this is more likely to be serving ego/personality than truth.”

Taking the path to liberation is to Return to Love – our true nature. This love, this deep full love will not abandon you…ever. There is no greater liberation than being at peace with existing, knowing the truth of who we are.

As we are constantly extended an invitation to enter into our heart space, beyond thought, we are sloughing off a fear based reality. This energy has to go somewhere – most of it will be transformed through the presence of love, some of it will seek to cling to its kind. Those of you who are sensitives will be aware of this fug.

Slow down. Be attentive to your awareness that is present and observing and in doing so exercise observation. Let whatever it is for you be whatever it is for you.

Be the light. Bring love anywhere you are stuck, anywhere in your life there is fear, attachment, uncertainty, no matter how small…bring it love. Be with this, observe this, welcome this and love this.

Eventually through practice you will experience a continued state of centeredness through which you experience your life. The shift is subtle and happens over time. Which is why we (my spirit team and I) urge you to make being present to Divine love your absolute priority.

One of my favourite poems captures all of this:

When you finally take

your calm and silent seat

on the throne

of your own heart

everything begins to fall into

it’s proper place

because

You

have

– From “Make Me Your Own”, Tosha Silver

I Love You <3

not always what you think you need

You always get what you need, but not always what you want.

This is never more true than in my sessions with clients. I am continually astounded at how diverse my sessions are. One client who came to see me wanted to make peace with a past relationship. Only during the session when a lady in spirit came through did I realise that the past partner had died at her own hand. Such an honoured position to be in facilitating communication at this level. There was so much love in the room as the deceased spoke of their time together on the earth plane. She spoke of how she really liked the current partner, and that it really was okay to let go.

Another time, a friend of mine came for a session (always interesting to read for friends). She was more curious than anything, to see what it was I did. An elderly gentleman stepped forward. I began to describe his features to my friend and the one thing that really stood out, was his flawless, baby like facial skin. He was an elderly man with the skin of a child. This confirmed it for her. It was so funny as he showed me a timepiece he was holding. Turns out he used to hold a stopwatch whilst barbecuing. It was his thing. He never got to meet her children as he passed before they were born. So it was special for her to hear him speak of each of their individual personalities. He expressed his awareness of some the challenges she was experiencing – providing much comfort to her.

So many stories…okay, the next.

This one I’ll never forget. A client came for some energy healing. Immediately a young boy made himself known to me. His hair was white blonde. As I was describing this child to the client a man stepped in beside the child. He made known that the child was him at the age he died. I kept hearing…it was a tragic mistake, as he took me through the motions of how we died. Sharing this with the client she told me her baby brother died in a tragic accident at the home property. Spirit is ageless and they will always find the most effective way to communicate with us so how wonderful that he chose to come through as an adult male too. He spoke of their mother. He spoke the family property and how he watches as his mother as she stands at the kitchen sink washing dishes, gazing out of the window. He said he knows when she is thinking of him and he wanted my client, his sister, to let mum know he is around, especially when she thinks of him. He described in great detail the garden, the house, the window and a particular space in the garden with a large green bush with red flowers, where he stands looking upon the home and his mum with great love. The next time my client visited the family home she sent me a photo of the garden and the green bush with the red flowers.

I started this piece with ‘You always get what you need, but not always what you want’. Thinking of a specific experience where the client got exactly that. As much as this was challenging for her it was also I think a relief. Because it confirmed what she always knew. In the space of my little healing room she got to experience herself beyond the confusion, the static and the noise. She saw a different perspective and from that place she could set a plan to move forward.

It’s challenging sometimes to deliver information that can be…well…straight to the core of the matter and not always wrapped in soft squishy heavenly love with feather bows (you get the picture). But deliver I must. Because I trust in what I do, and the information I receive. I trust that the clients’ higher self (pure soul, non-physical self) knows exactly what needs to happen, as do my spirit team, and these are the messages given to me to pass on.

Spirit (deceased, guides, ascended masters, angels) communicate with me in many ways – I hear, see, sense and channel. We all have a support crew in spirit that are with us every step of the way. But they can only come close and engage through invitation. If you’re not already doing so, start to play with your spirit family – it’s enormous fun and magical. Symbols are one of the languages of spirit so ask for signs and gifts, such as flowers, words, images to appear throughout the day. Build up the communication and invite them to draw close.

Mandi – life-love-liberation